Trendy Tragedy

How many times has some one said 

"I'm so sorry for your loss", "I'm praying for you", "tell me what's wrong" "happy birthday" "pray for (insert country here)" "bring back our girls" (do you even know what girls?) and you feel like it's not genuine ?  A lot right ? I'm sure I'm gonna rub a few people the wrong way but , here's the tea... no need to call /text me on my birthday I'm sure you don't really care and if Facebook didn't remind you would you have even thought about it? It's an epidemic of "fake caring" or what I like to call 8 hour concern. I never would've thought Id see the day society would make actual care and concern a trend. It's not hard to tell who's really fighting for a cause , really happy for you, really concerned about your issue or being sincere with their congratulatory calls, text and post because they will always be consistent with these things . You won't see them supporting any and everything just because they saw it floating down their time line 50,00 times or a celebrity endorsed it. I always wonder when people "support" everything what actions have they taken to ignite change besides posting a Meme for a few hours then moving on to the next "trendy tragedy". We take serious issues and dumb them down so much with making jokes that ppl forget about the cause or concern within a few hours. I challenge you before you support a movement or rally behind someone  do your own research . Also Before you say "if you need anything call me" make sure you really mean it and If you say "I'm praying for you" make sure you really are. 

Break the chain

You ever find yourself wondering how you're constantly dealing with a person or situation that you said was done or cut off a thousand times ? I've been thinking long and hard about why it is so hard to break the connections we form  i.e family, emotional, spiritual, romantic and financial bonds are hard to break especially if they're deep rooted . The smartest person wouldn't be able to figure out why because matters of the heart are more complicated than a thought process alone . Love and connections start in our hearts so pure and then our brains get involved and that's when things get complicated . Our thoughts help us decipher the good and bad , but your heart and emotions are what makes you accept the bad sometimes. I'm sure it's happened to the majority of us we've all took that person back when we said we were done or let that family member borrow money when we swore last time was the last time. I feel in order to completely break a bond or end a relationship that is causing you stress or pain you have to end it mentally and emotionally ! You can give something up in your mind and your heart will make a fool out of you every time  ! They both go hand in hand so until you reach that point you'll never be able to completely break the chain. You don't have to do it alone !! But God .... 

Trapping all Day no lunch breaks

Ever think to yourself how did I FUCK with this person?? You might've  been  a victim of a thirst TRAP!!!!

It used to be when dating people would try and take it slow getting to know one another , but now it's if you like my picture on Instagram "we go together" ! Now that is a little extreme but you get the point .  People are so desperate to be loved they confuse a harmless compliment as attraction or bait and most times that's a recipe for disaster . How many women post pictures / statuses / tweets / wear slutty clothing expecting certain outcomes?? i.e a certain number of likes or that one special person to comment etc .? I call these thirst traps!! Sometimes we set them and don't even know beware ladies ... If a guy is  to cocky or always posting what he's wearing or him spending money #thirsttraps looking for the right hoes to get caught up !! And guys vice versa if the bitch has one quote and all ass shots  #thirsttrap .

Here are a few examples of traps

Scenario 1 - girl post a beautiful picture , but the caption reads "looking a mess today" thirst trap fellas don't fall for it ... This bitch fishing for compliments and praise #fail


Scenario 2- guy always posting flashy pics i.e. money, clothes , bottle service (bitches love bottles) ootd etc ....don't fall for it ladies its all smoke and mirrors  he posted the money on payday and has on his friends clothes and jewelry just to take pics annnnnd he didn't put in on that booth or bottle ijs

Ladies and gents bottom line chill . Be bold enough to stand on what you actually have and who you REALLY ARE !!!




If you have any thirst traps you'd like to share please leave a comment thanks for readings dolls and gents xoxo !!!

Go Green

Lets clean up the dating pool !!

"If you're  unavailable quit shopping around and selling yourself polluting the dating pool" ~lolaflame

Today it seems that there are more unavailable people in the dating pool than ever. This bothers me because dating is already hard enough without married joes  out here selling dreams and nightmares. I say nightmare because love triangles are like a bad dream that reoccurs over and over until you finally wake up and remove yourself from the toxic situation !! The dating pool isn't only polluted with married /attached folks there are emotionally unavailable folks, too much baggage folks, BM/BD drama folks, Broke bitches , broke ninjas, I could go on but I'm sure you get the point ! All of those things and qualities automatically disqualify you from the dating pool.  How can you be looking for love but not Looking for a job. How can you be looking for love but you're still sleeping with your ex or BD/BM ? How can you be looking for love but going home to your wife every night ? How can you be looking for love with 5 baby daddies and 5 kids (whore)? Dating should be the last thing on your list!

It all boils down to this "are you REALLY available" ?? Ask your self that question and be honest if you're not right now then focus on getting things in order prioritize your life !! ... Write that down

Here's a few things you can do to help stop pollution ...

-Be honest .... With yourself first

-Check that baggage before you board your next flight          (relationship)

-Don't litter (take your trash to the dumpster and leave it there don't bring garbage from one relationship to the next )

I hope this enlightened you or at least made you laugh ...peace

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Haitus

Hello world its definitely been a minute since I let you guys get a glimpse inside my glass forehead. Well I'm back and lets just say A LOT has happened and I do plan on spilling all the juicy Tea with you guys !!! much love stay tuned ....

Girl on Girl

It seems like women just can't get along and society puts us against one another and we take the bait...

With the field I work in let's just say i love a friendly competition , but please be clear everything isn't one! Women compete with each other about any and everything and im speaking on females because I am one!! 1st things 1st let's define competition

com·pe·ti·tion (kmp-tshn)
n.
1. The act of competing, as for profit or a prize; rivalry.

Half of the time there is no competition just fake ones created in our minds, fake rivalries as well. Which are almost always misunderstandings.
Ladies if your not winning a prize i.e money, promotion, RING or profiting in any way then why give any energy to it! Instead of building up hatred or spitting venom on the next person how about putting that energy into something productive and beneficial. We're such an attention seeking society we'll say we're over someone or don't like the person but yet we talk, tweet, subtweet, inbox and email them rather it be directly or indirectly saying things we wouldn't do judging the other person when we're doing the same damn thing it's all a cycle! I'm guilty myself! I want to challenge all my sisters to write down the names of the women you don't like and right down all the reasons you dislike this person and I guarantee it's not worth the energy or time !! Let it go ladies we ALL claim we don't do drama then why the hell is it so much going on? Somebody likes it! Somebody is lying!


Oh and men definitely don't think it's attractive and those of you reading saying you don't care what men think your lying you do lol


Please leave feedback and comments thanks weirdos :-)
xoxo

Single unless your married???

Recently I've been hearing a lot of people saying your single if your not married ...bullshit !!!! I know plenty of married folks living like bachelors. Honestly I wish we would do away with the titles and relationship status. Does it really matter? Aren't people gonna do what they wanna do ? Most are as single as their options ! If people would quit trying to force things and go off of a real natural connection a lot less time would be wasted on these poisonous relationships. Ladies you don't have to ask him does he love you he'll show it. You should be able to feel the love when he's not around . You shouldn't even have a reason why you love him it should go beyond that . Now when you feel that that's when your no longer single lol ...not because you signed a contract aka marriage license. I'm not anti marriage I just want my foundation to be a strong as possible because I want my union to last through any storm life throws at us.

That's what's going in my head!! I'd like to know your thoughts please leave comments .... Thanks for the support xoxo